“I feel like a teenager with this stuff.”
“I feel like I shouldn’t still be figuring this out at my age.”
I have heard my clients say these sorts of things about their sexual development. Whether it was a modest adult virgin learning about their body and their partner’s, or another client frustrated with themself for not knowing their body’s sexual response and what turns them on, these expressions of embarrassment and shame surround so many people’s interactions with their own sexuality which I hear almost every day through my Zoom screen.
And it is totally, completely, 100% to be expected.