I concur with a lot in this article and research. I, too, notice in many of my straight male clients that they care very much if their female partners orgasm. This article and the associated research tell us there's a lot wrapped up in that experience for men when a woman comes:
- the man has an enhanced sense of his masculinity and confidence
- he thinks he's perceived as a skilled lover and therefore she might want to have sex with him again
As I prepare for a presentation I'll be giving later this summer at a local retirement community on Sexuality and Intimacy While Aging, I am reminded of how much I enjoy working with older adults. This can be people 60, 70, or 80+ years old wanting to improve their sexual relationships. Once we get the obvious age difference addressed (theirs vs. mine) and set aside, I find these clients to be authentic, energetic, eager, wonderfully humorous, and hopeful about their sexual futures (all good things to bring to the bedroom, I might add). It doesn't come without its challenges, though, and as the saying goes, aging isn't for wimps. Sexuality in later life can be one of the best parts of a couple's relationship, a safe harbor where they can fully feel and share their aliveness and love for each other in the face of uncertainty. It is a joy for me to work with these clients.
Now here's a humorous and endearing video that may stretch your understanding about sex and aging!