Individual & Couples Sex Therapy

​Sexual issues can — and do — happen to anyone at any age and sexuality is more than just the sensations in our bodies. Our sexual self is a complex, nuanced, and ever-changing fusion of all our parts: the biological, the physical, the emotional, the mental, the relational, the spiritual. As you can see, there's so much more going on besides just the physical act.

Our sexuality is a core part of who we are. It is how we express ourselves in and out of the bedroom. But many people either don't know exactly why sex creates confusing thoughts, feelings, or behaviors for them.  Or they do not know how to get the sex life they want.

If our sex life is suffering then we are suffering.
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I am here to help.
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Where Mental Health & Sexual Health Intersect
​Society has all kinds of ideas about what is “normal”sexuality. Ideas about sex drive; effortless arousal; strong erections and good control over ejaculation for men; powerful (and perhaps multiple) orgasms for both men and women; and a never-ending pressure for variety and experimentation are just a few messages we have all received. And yet when we are sexual with our partners, certain issues can frequently emerge: undercurrents related to gender role expectations, power and control, culture, religion, dominance and submission, politics, economics, and unresolved relationship dynamics are just a few.
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If we are bringing all this and more into the bedroom, it’s no wonder some people experience issues or avoidance. In our sex-negative culture, these are difficult things to talk about.
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All are welcome in my Santa Rosa office: LGBTQ+, straight, intersex, gender diverse, kinky, poly, positive, clergy, all faiths, all abilities, SW.
Here is just a small list of the problems with which I assist my clients. Are you struggling with any of them?
  • Problems with erections/erectile dysfunction: difficulty getting or maintaining
  • Problems with orgasm: rapid, delayed, or inability
  •  Sexual avoidance, painful intercourse
  •  Low or absent libido
  •  Anxiety about sex
  •  Pornography issues
  •  Sexual behavior that looks or feels out of control or "addicted"
  •  Low-sex or no-sex relationships
  •  Relationship trauma/infidelity/betrayal (i.e. an extramarital affair, porn, secret sexual   behavior)
  • Couples in conflict regarding sex
  •  LGBTQ+, gender nonconforming, gender fluid, and nonbinary identities and sexualities
  •  Alternative sexualities and relationship structures (kinks, fetishes, poly, CNM)
  •  Problems communicating about sex
  •  Mental health issues (depression, anxiety, etc.) that impact sexual functioning
  •  Physical health and ability issues that impact sexuality
  •  Aging and sexuality
  •  Chronic illness and sexuality
  •  Infertility

Let's Work Together
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AASECT Supervision

I provide AASECT supervision to those seeking AASECT certification as either a Certified Sex Therapist or Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor.

Events and Trainings

​By collaborating with other organizations, I regularly train fellow mental health professionals on the topics of sexuality, relationships, and psychotherapy.  This can be done in person or online.

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